10 reasons i can’t forget:

1. because you carefully liked me

from a distance, quietly, for a long time

2. because we made each other laugh to the point of pain and insanity

for hours until stomachs ached and eyes were blurry

3. because i was totally unequivocally myself

with a kind of authenticity where a secret door had cracked open

4. because the talking was endless & interesting

full of work, love, family, children, friends, drugs, sex, childhood, movies, repeat

5. because the silence was endless & easy


6. because the music was the first thing we ever shared

yours, on a plane

7. because the food was a constant

always shared

8. because the pride for one another

proved we could win at everything

9. because i was being set free

witnessing the beginning of baggage being ripped to shreds



10. Because i don’t want to









be social.

September 24, 2014


5 remarkably bothersome Social Media posts:

1. the attention grab. [it goes something like this: “ohhhhhh NOOOOOO. what a terrible horrible no good very bad day!!” and that’s all they say. let the comments of agonizing questions like “are you OK??” and “call me!!” begin.]

2. the butt plug. [that lovely person who takes the same picture over and over again, makes it into a frame of 6, and then posts about 4-17 times in a matter of 3 minutes. buzz kill. feed kill.]

3. the passer aggressor. [it astonishes me when i see a post that’s oh-not-so-subtly explaining how frustrated they are with a certain someone’s behavior or how upsetting it is that “people” can be so rude or how their c*** girlfriend totally slept with someone else.]

4. the un-appetizer. [food posts can be great. on Instagram i follow @dagmara_ch. she takes beautiful pictures of food that inspire me to eat better and make my meals prettier. however, i do not need to see a picture of soggy pancakes or a half-eaten hotdog. no necessito.]

5. the rant. [i believe social media is an incredible outlet to share your views, dreams, ambitions, successes, and crazy thoughts with the world. or whatever you want to share really. it’s akin to the butt plug though. can we please not fill everyone’s feed with your particular political views every second of every day? sometimes less is more. that is all.]

5 immensely lovable Social Media posts:

1. the accomplishment. [tell me what you’re most proud of. tell me what you’ve been sweating and bleeding over for 4 years and just completed. tell me how grateful you are for this amazing thing you finally got credit for. it inspires me and everyone else and if it doesn’t, who cares about those people anyway?]

2. the comedy. [i get most of mine from Twitter, but there are definitely other sites that provide my favorite jokesters an instantaneous audience to test their jokes. keep ’em coming folks. laughter is the best part of life and if you get more than 100 likes you’d better put that shit in your act.]

3. the big life moments. [similar to #1. if i follow you on any particular social media outlet i WANT to know when you have a baby or get married or fall in love or book your first acting gig or move to the big city or build your dream house. life’s biggest moments are meant to be shared. transitions in life can be overwhelming and daunting but change is beautiful ~ especially when someone’s open about it.]

4. the community. [a few of my friends only use social media to promote. themselves, business ventures, friends’ of friends business ventures, amazing causes, or just awesomeness going on around town. i don’t watch the news very often but i always feel in touch with my community.]

5. the skill. [we are all extremely good at something or several things. i love seeing someone share what they are profoundly good at. whether it’s taking honest and vulnerable photos, finding the most inspiring quotes you’ve never heard before, or creating the best damn quips that make everyone laugh in the middle of their day ~ who couldn’t use a little social media?]


November 4, 2011

10 quirky things about a generally non-quirky girl:

1. my hair. [i have this strange thing about my hair, which to this day no hairdresser has truly diagnosed. basically 1 out of every 20 strands of my hair is kinky and in a zig zag pattern. i mean crimped as if some microscopic elf took a crimping iron to a few pieces of my hair while i was napping. i spend lots of time looking for these rare strands and playing with them when i am bored.]

2. i like math and i am creative. [nothing makes me happier than figuring out a math problem or completing a complicated bookkeeping project. i also went to a Conservatory of the Arts for Drama, write a blog and know my life would be much more complete if spent on a movie set. i am still waiting for the two parts of my brain to meet perfectly in the middle.]

3. i skip showers. [i used to hate admitting this but honestly, it’s just a quirky thing about myself i have learned to accept. there has to be a reason or an urge to get me in the shower. like a first date or a sweaty workout. hey, my skin and hair are better off for it and i shower when i need to. so there.]

4. i love Q-tips. [i have to use Q-tips every single day. if i go on a trip and forget to bring them, i will take a cab to find a convenient store in the middle of the night or raid my friend’s medicine cabinet like a drug addict. i am indeed addicted to that little bit of soft cotton swirling around my ear.]

5. sometimes i see a visual of what people are saying. [this is probably from years spent transcribing what people say on reality shows. every once in a while you’ll be talking to me and i am totally listening and interested and really in it and then i notice your words appear across your forehead like a scrolling marquee in Times Square. thanks E! Entertainment.]

6. i sleep in one tiny spot of a huge bed. [i have a California king bed, i’m 5’2″ tall, and i live alone. the size of my bed is amazing and there isn’t a moment that i don’t appreciate it for all its worth. every evening i look at it and sigh and can’t wait to crawl in. i turn back the covers, slide into my little piece on the right side, go to sleep and wake up in the exact same place. there’s a country called the left side of my bed that i’d love to visit someday.]

7. i can’t stand biting a fork. [the texture and sound and feel of my teeth chomping down on a fork…oh my god i am freaking out just thinking about it. oy. i tried to talk about it and i just can’t. my apologies.]

8. i am really unhappy without avocado on my sandwiches & salads. [if i am ordering a sandwich or salad somewhere and they have run out of avocado it ruins my lunch. i am totally serious. i’ll still get the damn thing and begrudgingly eat it and continue on with my life, but my lunch and my day are pretty much ruined. i kind of need avocados to breathe.]

9. i will always wait until the last second to fill my gas tank. [since the age of 16, when all poor parents must release their children out onto the highways of the world, i refuse to put gas in my tank unless it is 99.9% empty. okay, maybe there is an exception to this rule on a long road trip or something. but in daily life the car must be about to putter to a stop before i pull into a gas station. no idea.]

10. i only write reminders on Post-Its. [i find myself making lists and reminders more and more often as i get older and i take on more jobs and clients and bills and all sorts of life crap. the quirky thing is i cannot and absolutely will not make a note of anything unless it’s on a Post-It. the few times i’ve veered from this pattern i completely forgot the reminder so apparently Post-Its are the only thing holding it all together.]